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Why love is called blind?

When we love, we put our brain aside.

Mostly.

When feelings are intense, we often try to find and interpret them in a reciprocal way.

When we receive even a small formal sign, we interpret it as mutual feelings.

We ignore all negative signs repeatedly. Knowingly.

We trust words with utmost frequency, even if they were said too much formally and without even proper meaning.

When we love, we trust blindly.

Even if we were being cheated repeatedly, we use to find repeated excuses to justify the other one.

We think maybe he or she was angry, may be situations didn’t support, may be this and may be that.

We know all our “Maybe”, right?

We know cheating or mistreating can never be an option. Itโ€™s always intentional, right?

Still, we will catch ourselves in justifying the other one more often than he/she himself/herself does.

We give forgiveness more often and too quickly before even the other one asks for it.

Whatever, we cannot accept the simple fact that he /she does not love us.

We use to interpret in too many positive ways.

We use to over analyze situations.

We use to keep reminding our hearts every time that he/she actually is not the person the way he/she behaves.

We use to interpret every full stop sign as a repeated sign of coma.

We use to interpret behaviors the way our hearts want it to be.

Our hearts cling too much into a person that even if a thousand persons come and share all the worst things about him or her but we still keep justifying ourselves and to others as well about the inherent goodness of him or her and keep hoping for improvements.

We use to bear all abuses, mistreatments, disrespects just not to let our loved one leave.

We think by keeping silence about all the wrongs we can keep the other one stay with us forever.

Because we frankly can’t see him or her leaving.

Let ourselves remind that this is not the way.

First thing if someone wants to leave. He/she will. Period.

No matter what we do or how hard we try.

There cannot be any other serious reason for leaving than the person actually wants to leave. It’s a conscious decision.

So we can’t even expect regret.

Because again, It’s a conscious decision.

Second thing we will lose our individuality, self-respect, and free will when we bear anything and everything from the other one and finally find our self-scattered and broken as hell

Summarizing all things, we should keep boundaries and teach people how to treat us.

We have to break our silence if our silence is breaking us.

Say what we have got to say and say it hot.

To do wrong and to bear wrong both are sins.

P.S We should learn to identify what is really mutual and what we assume as mutual.

69 Comments

  1. Well you are absolutely true with your post.

  2. The blind love! A true post. I wish we could at least be in our part senses but no, we don’t. we lose it and just get carried away!

  3. Beautiful and amazingly written.๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘

  4. “God is Love”.

  5. Hi Vihasi, I recently nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award. Feel free to accept or decline, if you would like to accept this nomination, please check out this link on my blog for detail:
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  6. Love is blind that’s why it’s beautiful

  7. This does makes a lot of sense. I think that’s what love does to people, who, when they start believing, they are in a way bound by its spell and anything the other do just looks nice and with love.

    Great post, Vihasi. Thanks for letting me know and writing as well. ๐Ÿ˜€

  8. Nice post! Our true nature is to love all the wonderful creations around us – unconditionally. For that we need to be open and spontaneous in our thoughts and actions.
    Cheers ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. . . . Love is a stupid bliss.

  10. Either you understand human emotions well since you are kind person or must be seriously in love at some point of life or it could be both..

  11. Means both of the above na?

  12. Hahaha nice answer…

  13. I followed you in other social platforms too

  14. It was really nice meeting you and since you are my first follower,your comments and feedbacks are highly appreciated… Read some of my post too and give your feedback in future..I would be grateful if you do so..

  15. Basically we both are engineers right

  16. I am a software engineer and I guess you are electrical engineer

  17. Vihasi my sister, you post was very informative and hit the nail on the head! Written so very well. Here is a prayer that I share with a lot of my sisters, and brothers., I think you will like it…it is all about a mindset one should have. We can choose someone, but never perfectly as we are not perfect. Or we can have one who is perfect choose for us…and wait on his answer. I prayed for God to choose one for me, and I waited for his answer. And next year it will be 40 years. Love is a selfless gift blessing, as Gods blessing of love is to us. Even if we choose not to believe in God…he still loves us all…priceless and selfless…. here is the poem!

    A Prayer For A Genuine Seeking Heart

    May your dreams become a lovely reality
    May you find that special one you need
    One who will put you far ahead of them
    While daily striving to satisfy your needs

    May they be one whose heart is truly selfless
    One who will always seek to be genuinely true
    May they greet your precious smile each day,
    With a priceless gift of love born for only you

    May your hearts seek to become one together
    Never ever wanting a single day to be apart
    May God bless your life with a priceless gem
    A reward for your faithful pleasing heart

    For God will hear your fervent prayers nightly
    While embracing their true pureness alive within
    Wanting to answer them very perfectly for you
    With someone spiritually special chosen by Him.

    Wendell A. Brown

    Hugs and blessings to you my sister!

    • First of all I want to express my sincere gratitude for you attention, care, love and respect.
      I am genuinely blessed by your words,presence and support.
      Poem you have mentioned is indeed very nice and happy to read your words as well.
      Stay connected,Keep smiling.
      Best regards.
      Blessings.

  18. Love is hormonal unbalance so being emotionally blind is obvious

  19. Amazing.. just amazing Vihasi..

  20. Thank you for sharing – and choosing to follow Elm Drive Images.

  21. Your words are so true. My husband and I were married 36 years. About 30 of them involved his decline in health both mentally and physically until he died at 59 years old. I went through so many feelings like you listed. Please continue to share this to reach as many people as you can. Maybe you can help others avoid the pain. You must have experience in this to have spoken so eloquently. Thank you.

  22. This is so lovely dear. And you are right. We like to believe in the good in those we love so we are always ready to excuse. I guess love is blind.
    Lovely post. You’ve inspired me to do a love post on my blog too.
    ๐Ÿ™‚
    http://www.girleccentric.wordpress.com

  23. And in the end, you will see what it truly means to be hurt by another. It is to ‘see’ within yourself what pains you. And to even shock you further, you will have created it, by being exactly as you are.
    My example….I feared rejection by another, so I would ‘overdo’ everything so that they wouldn’t reject me. Pull out chairs for them, buy lots of flowers, be very attentive…until finally they just went ‘stop’. They could ‘feel’ me smothering them, and maybe not as obvious, the fear that drove it beneath all that I did.
    And as a natural by-product of that, they pulled back a bit, which made me pull back because I was hurt that they couldn’t accept where I was coming from. And a distance begins to widen.
    And when five different relationships got shot down, I would go into the next relationship with a wall up, even before I got to know them, slowly bringing to a head what I wouldn’t let myself ‘feel’ because of my fear.
    And then one day I was absolutely trashed by someone I had really let myself fall in love with, and I was so lost and in great pain emotionally.
    And then it happened, a very lovely friend asked me to look within, find why I felt that they had all hurt me, and slowly I saw that it was always that rejection that held me in all that I did, so I then dug deeper to ‘see’ why. And one day, this friend said to me, ‘why do you hate your father’, and I went into a long rant on why I felt as I did. At the end I realised ‘there’ was my pain, the one thing in my life that used to get me very angry. So she asked me to look, really look into my heart and ask why. After searching and much prodding from my friend, I ‘saw’ it, and fell in a crying heap on the floor, understood why I had felt as I did for so many years and in all those relationships ‘wanted’ that love that I felt I hadn’t got from my dad. That fear of rejection had been built from a very young age, locked in place by a wall as I knew no other way to block that pain, until such time I had actually blocked out the reason why I had that wall there.
    And in all the healing I have now done over the years, we are all the same, blocking those things in life to protect our hearts, when in fact, that same blocking is causing us so much pain.
    Seek, and you will find…understand it, and the wall will fall…and then your life will completely change, finally coming from that truth within, instead of a wall of fear.
    Understand the why, and you will no longer project your fear onto another, no longer react to those many things that push our buttons….because they will no longer have meaning.
    In understanding them they lose their power…and you are finally, totally…free ๐Ÿ˜€

  24. Thank you for the follow. You’ve written an excellent essay for this blog regarding love and it comes with much wisdom. I believe unconditional love from both individuals is the only way for love to survive. If unconditional love is missing then love does not exist, it cannot, it will cause much heartache by one or the other person and ultimately die.
    I’ve followed your blog; however, blogging is much like loving in a way. For me, it’s an opportunity for two individuals to get to know the philosophies of the other. Reading and commenting on each others post is a way to make that happen. In the absence of that relationship, there’s no value in following a blog. Sheri

    • Much thanks for your attention and appreciation.
      I assure you for better connection and sharing.
      Stay connectd. Keep smiling.
      Best regards.

  25. Wow, this is so true, but I don’t really see love as blind because I do love with carefulness so that I won’t regret later on…

  26. OMG!!! What an Awesome post! I really loved the way you put all the reasons out there why love is blind, how we let it happen and why we don’t deal with reality. Absolutely Wonderful. This so insightful and thought provoking!

    You need to put this one in your Resource Bank! There are so many idea gems to go back and mine for poems and writings in the future. So many lines to love but I especially loved this one – “We use to interpret behaviors the way our hearts want it to be.” We believe “Alternate facts”.

    Thank you so much for honoring me with your “follow”. I am so glad you “found me” because now I am can enjoy your writing by following you! I think you might like my post “Rolling The Dice”. I would be so interested in your response to it in light of your writing here. Many thanks! I am so glad we “stumbled” upon each other!!!!

    • Hey thanks to you too for your positive and attentive response.
      I am seriously glad that you liked post and blog.
      I am looking forward to your writing as well.
      stay connected.keep smiling

  27. Thanks for reblogging:)

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